Posted by MissK on February 20, 2008, at 20:34:49
In reply to therapy lately, posted by sunnydays on February 20, 2008, at 17:59:04
Why not just ask him if his professional boundary excludes giving hugs to clients? Does he ever hug a client and when or under what circumstances?
Try not to think of it so personally.
You can tell him you get the strong feeling of wanting a hug from him and ask him what you should do about that or what are his thoughts about that. I am sure it isn't the first time he's had a client want the same thing, and he probably already knows how to answer the question and respond to the situation of your feelings.
I have had moments in session where I could feel wanting a hug from my therapist. However, that boundary has been so strong from day one that it quickly recedes. And I am sure she must have seen it my eyes or body language, but she is so great she never makes me feel awkward even if does sense that is something I may want. And, if I am not mistaken, I think she may have wanted to be able to give a hug too, though I've noticed that sometimes her smile and expression towards me after some sessions almost feel like a hug. I do hope whe will let me give her a hug when we eventually terminate. That would be really nice. I will be sure to ask her though if I can and I won't take it wrong at all if she says no.
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