Posted by sunnydays on February 22, 2008, at 17:31:44
In reply to Re: therapy lately, posted by sassyfrancesca on February 21, 2008, at 12:21:04
> I have had the hug discussion many times.....my t does hug me (and sometimes doesn't), but it is a different situation; he is unfortunately holding back and fighting his feelings for me.
>****** That sounds like an awkward situation. Do you mean romantic feelings? I don't want a hug from my T for a romantic reason - I see him as a father figure, and I think it's more about wanting comfort and to feel acceptable and cared for for me.
> As he says: "We are both very restrained people." I've given him many articles on the hug thing, etc.....my t asked what it meant to me....I said that someone cared about me and was welcoming, etc......***** Yes. I'm a little confused because I don't know your whole situation, but it seems odd to justify it as being a restrained person rather than as an expression of appropriate boundaries. Not that there's anything wrong with giving hugs, because I want one, but I expect my T's reasoning would be very much about keeping appropriate boundaries and it not being best to satisfy everything I want. It wouldn't be so much about his feelings, but about what he thinks is best professionally.
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> Touch speaks volumes when words cannot. As humans we need that touch; it is healing. I think it is very appropriate and especially when spoken about between client and t, and what it means, etc......**** I agree there. The one time my T rubbed my upper arm, it felt so incredibly comforting when nothing he could have said would have felt like that.
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