Posted by muffled on December 10, 2007, at 11:09:22
In reply to Re:being split » muffled, posted by lovelorn on December 10, 2007, at 10:19:09
> It does sound like quite a lot of confusion going on. Maybe that kid is not so powerless afterall if this part of yourself is causing so much confusion.
*LOL, in some ways kids are so NOT powerless, ever see a 2 yr old freaking out his ma in the grocery store???!!! Power!
My kids had a dissociative Mom, so I just phased out....> I think it may be that that small part of yourself really wants to express itself, and has found someone in your T to do that with even though the other parts are not letting her to talk. I think you won't get any relief until that small part actually does talk and lets out what is bothering her. Easier said than done when we've built up all kinds of defenses, I know.
*Yeah, I gonna try. I just dunno if I can do it....but I gonna try. I sent T email telling her I not do so good and that she goto talk to kid and I don't know how to make it so.
> I can just say with my own regressed parts, that sometimes feels like a child in me, that child wanted to be heard and her pain and lonliness felt. I felt safe with my T to do that many times already, and actually this past weekend I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me and again that part needed to come out and say some stuff. Once I did let it come, my mind felt better.*How to you give your child a voice? Do you speak for hewr, or does she come out and talk?
> Why not ask your T why she doesn't just tell you to get your F'n act together.*actually I am getting SOOOOOOOOOOO way better at telling T what works anbd what doesn't. Poor T was fumbling in the dark a long time. She encourages me to give feedback and suggestions, in fact she is delighted. She don't get mad at all, and if her feeling are hurt, she don't show it.
Thanks for your input!
M
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