Posted by slugdoo on August 8, 2007, at 19:49:51
In reply to Re: ...when to move on...Observation » JoniS, posted by sunnydays on August 8, 2007, at 19:26:38
Hi Sunnydays,
I do appreciate your comments and I like what you said and I do agree with a lot of it. The thing is that maybe you don't know, is that this has happened more than once. Plus there are other boundry crossing I am will not post on the boards. So to be fair, it wasn't just this one thing. He can still appolize to me if he wishes, I have left the line of communtication open with him . In my message today I told him how much he has helped me and a lot more, and I would like to clear the air with him because we see each other at the gym. So the ball is in his court.
I think it really doesn't matter what his intentions were, whether it was a mistake of his countertransference or whether he meant to hurt me ( i feel it is the 1st reason probably), but he still hurt me. And I have to decide how much I can take of this. But overall the theraputic help from him has declined this year. Who knows really why, but somewhere he stopped being my T, and more like a friend. That did feel good, I enjoyed the attention, but when those boundries can back and he did it really cruel, It killed my heart. I know he is doing it in part to convince himself of what he feels, I think he is denial. But I am able to look at the good in the situation, I guess I learned that from him, and I have learned to forgive him for what he did intentionally or not. I don't know if this helps shed more light on my situation. I have been on the boards for over 2 years now, so some of babblers know the struggles I have had. Please stay around, I like to hear what you have to say. ((((Sunnydays))))
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