Posted by Dinah on August 8, 2007, at 19:54:35
In reply to Re: ...when to move on...Observation » JoniS, posted by sunnydays on August 8, 2007, at 19:26:38
Please don't go in a cave and hide.
Your position comes from your experiences, and your view of relationships, and is likely very influenced by your positive experiences with your therapist.
And that's ok. It really is.
My experiences come from my background of maintaining positive, rewarding relationships with people who were difficult, to say the least. My parents, maybe especially my father, could say really hurtful things sometimes. But in the end I maintained a close relationship with them, and especially with him. If my experiences had been different, if I had kept trying and not been rewarded by ending up with a really beneficial relationship with him, I'd likely think that it wasn't worth persevering in the face of hurtful statements. Really really hurtful statements.
And then I think it also depends on the view of the therapeutic relationship. The more people expect a professional relationship with their therapist, the more they probably won't tolerate unprofessional behavior. The more people see therapy as a long term relationship like any other (at least in some ways), the more they are likely to tolerate occasional bad behavior.
There is no right or wrong, I don't think. There are only different viewpoints. Yours is as valid as anyone else's, although in the end we all have to respect the viewpoint of the person most intimately involved and hope that everything works out well. Which is probably just as well, since the persons most involved are the ones who know all the ins and outs of that relationship.
If that makes any sense.
Please don't leave.
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