Posted by Racer on May 7, 2007, at 12:31:42
In reply to Re: Completely wrung out (long) **trigger** » Racer, posted by sunnydays on May 6, 2007, at 21:47:45
Thank you.
I'm still at the "people think I'm not a bad person, because I hide my inner badness from them" stage. But I've managed to say things like, "Yes, I was manipulating her as best I could, but manipulation is a neutral concept -- and anyway, I was terrified and doing everything I could come up with to survive!" It's still saying that I was doing what mother said I was doing, but it's also allowing myself to see it as a survival mechanism, a coping strategy, rather than a fundamentally "bad" character trait. And I'm better able to see that it's never right to say those things to a child. I'm at the point of seeing how I'd feel if someone did that to a child -- next will come the hard part: applying that to me...
Thanks for your response.
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