Posted by B2chica on June 16, 2006, at 16:44:26
In reply to Re: can professionals keep this a secret? » B2chica, posted by ElaineM on June 16, 2006, at 15:34:19
honey i don't mean to scare you at all. and to be honest...maybe i'm mis reading it. but i haven't had good experiences in life and i've always been withdrawn and its hard for me to stick up for myself, and i've been hurt many times because of it. i guess i'm just a little over protective now and i HATE for anyone to be in a compromising situation, or in a place where they could be physically, sexually or emotionally abused.
i understand your not wanting to hurt anyone. especially this man who has given you bits of self-esteem and whom you've built a relationship with. one that's supposed to be of trust.
but please remember, he is an adult, his is supposed to be a professional in a very sensitive field. it's not like he's never been taught what boundries are (especially in his position) but he's chosen to cross those. you on the other hand are not as familiar with the boundries and should be able to look to him for first hand example of being able to create and enforce these boundries.
if nothing else i think he is not a good therapist for exactly this reason.
and us that have dealt with cr@p all our lives would much rather take on more cr@p than watch it be put upon others, but you have to remember he's supposed to be helping you deal with that, not make it worse.i do think that no matter what you do you should discuss it with some professional. EVEN if it is some late night nurse 800 number or some local public health center or something like that. you could make an anonymous call and ask for their advice. but better yet, if you do trust your GP i think you should tell her.
and i think Tamar mentioned (and is right) that they may not report it. if they suspect abuse (like physical or sexual) then they will but i guess technically you can make it clear that nothing has happened but here are your concerns...overall, no matter what you decision...2 things
1)you are worth SO much and deserve good health care. you are not currently getting it, no matter your attachment to this guy, he may have helped you in the past but he is not currently doing so. so i really think you should find someone else.
2) THANK YOU for trusting us here with your problem. personally i think it was a big step and an important one at that. not just for this problem. but to show your strength, that infact your instincts are right and something here is not healthy for you. you reached out and asked for help. you did a Wonderful job for doing that.please take everyones comments into consideration along with your own thoughts, instincts and other insights. you know this T better than us.
but please. you are SO worth a deserving therapist. one that can truly help you.please take care of yourself Elaine.
extra ((((((((((((((Elaine)))))))))))))))))b2c.
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