Posted by annierose on March 18, 2006, at 21:29:10
In reply to So here it is. Longish and not absolutley coherent, posted by madeline on March 18, 2006, at 10:21:55
I'm sorry your T hurt you with his words. It is so painful. These are the hardest of hardest struggles to get through. And if you do not quit (and I can hear it in your post how conflicted you are about staying vs. leaving) it will take lots and lots of time. It's not likely in one session the two of you will get that level of intimacy (the talking variety) back.
So even after weeks of hashing out what he said, what you said, things may be different. But it may be worth it. Worth it to learn that you can still come through the pain to a valuable working alliance. Only you will know if it's right for you.
Good luck. I'm so sorry. I do know how hard this is. It is the gut wrenching variety of pain.
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