Posted by Pfinstegg on December 11, 2005, at 10:08:11
In reply to Re: what we have said about our therapists... » Pfinstegg, posted by allisonross on December 11, 2005, at 9:37:30
Thanks so much for your response- you are wonderful- spirited and courageous, and very pretty (I saw your lovely photo).
To clear up one small point: I wasn't saying that you reacted negatively to those two-year old posts. It wasn't you at all; just, on this thread, some of the longer-term posters brought up that it had seemed disrespectful at the time. I was completely unaware of that, and it did make me think about how different people's legitimate reactions can be.
At the end of your post, so much of a sense of aloneness comes through. Everything you have done to make your life better has taken so much courage; but you are not alone. The most important person you have right now is your therapist; he will never abandon you. As therapy progresses, you can slowly and carefully deal with all the pain and losses you have endured (none of them should ever have happened, but, sadly, they did). He is going to be right with you as you do this. Gradually, you will begin replicating the relationship you have with him with others who are also healthy and safe. But you will always have him, too.
Just a thought- but you are so pretty and indeed do look about 39- do you have the feeling that your looks and sexiness are the only things which could possibly make a therapist interested in you? That all the loss and pain- if it's what you begin to talk about more- will be a turn-off for him?
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