Posted by daisym on December 11, 2005, at 0:55:22
In reply to Anyone remember the Babble pageant?, posted by gardenergirl on December 10, 2005, at 23:49:23
yes -- and I didn't participate in that either. Because...because...it doesn't feel respectful to me. There I said it. Does that make me judgemental? I hope no one takes it that way. I appreciate that people can and do have fun with this stuff. REALLY. I just can't do it. I've never had anyone treat me so gently and so respectfully so I can't "play" with this relationship. I can complain about it, cry about it, share funny moments or talk about his dress, his office or make light of a few other things. I just can't, can't go there with my feelings about him. (Yes, totally, I know, a good girl not wanting to get in trouble but it is more than that.)
And one other thing...
Perhaps the danger isn't that the therapist will take advantage of the client. Perhaps the danger is that the client will be terminated or transferred. Or the therapist will not allow the feelings to be part of the therapy. Again, I'm in complete agreement that a client should be totally honest and bring up what is most on their mind. But how many times have we heard about therapist who just couldn't handle that much honesty? I guess it has been said, but context is so very important.
And I stand by what I said before. The writer should not have to worry about the readers, except with a trigger alert. Readers need to take care of themselves. This is a lesson I'm still learning -- I can hear Fallsfall in my head saying, "turn it off Daisy!" as I watch something that was really upsetting. Hey Falls, I turn it off now -- growth!
Thank you and good night.
Daisy
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