Posted by one woman cine on December 10, 2005, at 21:13:35
In reply to Will my words diminish dreams ,spirits of another?, posted by allisonross on December 10, 2005, at 7:59:22
"If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all", to me is a phrase oft told to me by my parents to make sure I was obedient, well-behaved, and always agreeable. Perfect, except it was making me submit to things that were harmful to me as a person. It took away the power of my voice & in my opinion, to all children.
i do think everyone has a right to express how they feel, everyone, no exceptions. I have spent far too long trying to be "nice" and going along with whatever anyone said, even if it made me uncomfortable. I went along (this was my issue way back when) and was essentially taking care of people emotionally at the expense of myself. I'm sure you can relate. So, just like you have to express yourself, I also must do this. Everyone has a right to their own internal truth. It's just healthy. & I think it's hard to not expect people to post about a provocative subject - and I think it's OK to do that.
As someone else said, not everyone is going to agree, that's just a part of life. Just as an aside, as an artist, plenty of people are critical of my work - for different reasons which aren't important, but if I crumpled every time someone said "ah, the direction could've been better, or oh it's too long - you need to edit" I wouldn't be here. & i think you are going to run into that (in my opinion) when you write your book. But I hope that doesn't stop you stating your own truth.
I have already said my "piece" when you said you were leaving before. I can't make anyone to do anything, I realized that long ago. So, I'm kind of disappointed to see you post this.
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