Posted by Tamar on December 10, 2005, at 17:36:45
In reply to Re: Will my words diminish dreams ,spirits of another? » allisonross, posted by fallsfall on December 10, 2005, at 15:47:22
And I doubt I’ll pursue this much farther…
Falls, I’m picking up what you said only because it’s the latest of several posts saying similar things…
> There are others who are not as lucky, however, and I worry that they might read your posts and think that it is OK to be equally forward with their therapists.
See, what I worry is that people will read these threads and think that it *isn’t* OK to tell their therapists how they really feel.
> For some of them it WILL be OK, but not for all.
If you mean that some therapists will take advantage of some patients, I do not believe FOR ONE MOMENT that it happens as a result of a patient confessing to loving feelings, or any kind of flirtation. Abusive therapists MUST be held fully responsible for their behaviour. Any suggestion that a patient’s confession of love or attraction might lead to danger seems (to me) to be perilously close to saying she asked for it.
> I wonder if some of the other posters would feel more comfortable if you were more vocal about how this is what you need in your therapy, but that you recognize that this kind of behavior could be dangerous for other people who are in other situations.
If patients are in danger, it is NOT because they tell their therapists they love them, or behave in a flirtatious manner, or even make direct sexual approaches. It is because their therapists are abusing their trust.
I’m sorry to rant; I feel very strongly that the full responsibility for dangerous situations must rest with the therapist.
Aside from all that, I don’t seem to recall a single person asking Ally *why* she enjoys joking sexually about her therapist, or whether she believes it is helpful to flirt in therapy. I’ve heard many people say they feel uncomfortable reading it, and that’s fine; everyone has their own comfort zones. But I’m surprised that people haven’t expressed more interest in Ally’s point of view...
I could be wrong, and maybe I missed something. I haven’t read every single post on the board.
I really hope I haven’t offended anyone. I certainly haven’t intended to. I’m going to run away and hide now, but I will come back to apologise if necessary.
Tamar
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