Posted by Dinah on December 2, 2005, at 10:01:17
In reply to Unconscious Seduction - long, posted by daisym on November 30, 2005, at 0:50:26
I think my situation makes a great object lesson and rightly frightens anyone who's in therapy for the long haul. It was part of our discussion again yesterday. How I really didn't think that he hurt me so much as I think being attached to him hurt me. And I didn't want to be hurt again, I wanted to spread my eggs into more baskets. He refused to say that I didn't need to protect myself from him. He said it was up to me. :(
But I think there is some flirtation on my part. I have a hard time discussing it, because I know so many here have had fathers who abused their trust, but I think it's normal for little girls to have a flirtatious in an innocent little girl way attitude towards their Daddies. And *good* Daddies understand that flirtation for what it is and respond in kind, by allowing themselves to be amused or charmed. I think I *sometimes* flirt with my therapist in that innocent little girl way, and he *sometimes* gives me the gift of being amused (not charmed ever, but amused).
I have no interest in any other sort of seduction, but that sort of flirtation is a seduction of sorts. Not a seduction sexually, but a seduction of raising interest and intensity and positive feelings in a relationship.
I hope my answer isn't inappropriate, and doesn't cause any pain to those whose father responded inappropriately to completely appropriate flirting on the parts of their daughters.
poster:Dinah
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