Posted by daisym on November 30, 2005, at 10:41:54
In reply to Re: Unconscious Seduction - long » daisym, posted by allisonross on November 30, 2005, at 4:14:55
It sounds like you have a good therapist too. The major difference might be that I absolutely know that my therapist cares about me but has no romantic feelings for me at all. There is no fantasy about that, no ambiguity and no *hope* that he will develop them.
He tells me that allowing this space in my heart for him is a huge step for me because I had cut off this part of me to protect myself. The fact that he is safe enough to *practice* feeling these feelings with and to have them accepted and honored means I'm healing. He never tells me they aren't real and he treats my feelings very gently and respectfully. He acknowledges how scary and painful all this can be. But he asked me if there was a positive side to these loving feelings and I said it felt like a secret smile tucked inside. He really liked that.
I just wish it wasn't all mixed with this huge fear of being abandoned. The more honest with him I am about how I feel, the bigger this fear gets. And I don't know how to make it go away. Intellect is not informing my gut these days!
thanks for sharing.
Daisy
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