Posted by Dinah on November 10, 2005, at 20:14:23
In reply to For all (connection speed isn't that good), posted by orchid on November 10, 2005, at 19:20:21
You definitely need to say it firmly and unambiguously. If he touches you, no matter whether it is overtly sexual or not, against your will, it is wrong. Just plain wrong. Everyone is entitled to respect for their own bodies, which includes freedom from unwelcome touch.
It doesn't matter if it's sexual. It's not right to tickle someone against their will either.
But I was especially concerned with the fact that he's saying that his hugging you can cure your arthritis. That doesn't seem all that innocent to me.
If you haven't been clear to him so far that you don't want certain types of touch, now is the time to do it.
You might be surprised. With my therapist's encouragement, I set all sorts of boundaries with my parents in the last several years. And wonder of wonders, if I upheld them, they respected them. And weren't even horribly angry about it.
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