Posted by daisym on November 8, 2005, at 17:14:44
In reply to Re: I'm afraid (slight trigger), posted by antigua on November 8, 2005, at 6:40:31
I don't think sex with my husband betrays my feelings for my therapist. But for a long time I didn't want my therapist in my head when I was having sex, it felt like a betrayal of my husband. I've now reached this weird deal with myself that if I start to get triggered, I let myself hear him and keep me safe. I told my therapist this (I did not tell my husband) and he said he thought it was fine and that sometimes putting something grounding under my pillow or where I could see it might help keep me in the moment and not flip into old stuff. So I'm working on it.
Definately need to be in control and ready. Of course it is all so complicated when you are with someone who has an illness because you have to make allowances for that -- and sometimes he gets upset that things aren't working right, and anger and sex definately don't mix for me. These are the times I freeze up and feel very young.
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