Posted by gardenergirl on October 5, 2005, at 16:15:02
In reply to Re: Being in therapy is too much like being in love » Dinah, posted by JenStar on October 5, 2005, at 15:18:40
Hi Dinah,
I'm sorry you came away from your latest communication with your T as if you did something wrong. I noted that you wrote that HE "read into" your words. That's HIS issues comming out. It sounds like he's not entirely clear about his own feelings, personal and professional, about what Katrina has done to your relationship. I think he would agree that seeing someone else when he's not available is a good thing. His response, though, about maybe you not continuing with him at all sounded petulant, at least from reading it via your words. I suspect he's conflicted about wanting things to return to "normal" as much as possible and realizing that things will never be just like that again. You know, from the very first, he mentioned he wanted to keep seeing you in order to have some sense of normalcy. I can understand that, but that's not the reason a T should keep seeing a client.I'm not saying don't see him at all. And I'm not trying to disparage him. I just hear a lot of his own stuff coming out in your communications together. That's probably due to the depth and history of your relationship. I doubt he'd let his boundaries drop so much with his other clients. But it puts more burden on you, when he should be helping you clarify what's best for you in making therapy plans.
sigh
I hope that wasn't too rambling.
Take care,
gg
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