Posted by Dinah on October 6, 2005, at 7:30:13
In reply to Re: therapy is like being in love » Dinah, posted by alexandra_k on October 5, 2005, at 20:36:08
Alexandra, I know what you are saying is wise. And that it probably applies to most people.
But I am not most people.
I've had maybe four or five close friends in my entire life. And I intensely miss every one of them who is not currently in my life, not excepting my third grade best friend. I married my high school sweetheart. I have had the same job since 1980. So has my husband. I've always lived within seven miles of where I lived since I was 4 1/2, and those seven miles consisted of only three houses - a rental house while my parents built their house, and my marital home. I have been in love with five dogs (B, P, J, B, H - yes, five) over the literally dozens I have owned in my life. And all but one of them were love at first sight. And each of those I loved in very very different ways. And as delightful as the others were I can't fall in love with them. I can enjoy them, but I can't fall in love. Not even after two years, or fifteen.
I am more like Phoebe's lobster (a Friends reference) than like the person you envision. Maybe if I saw a dozen or so therapists for long periods of time, there would be one who I attached to. But that's hardly feasible.
That's just who I am. I suppose I could work on it in therapy, but I like who I am in that regard, and don't wish to change it, even if it causes me pain.
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