Posted by gardenergirl on March 19, 2005, at 18:57:03
In reply to Re: It's still there (are ya'll sick of this subject?) » Shortelise, posted by messadivoce on March 19, 2005, at 17:18:17
I think you hit the nail on the head. Being with your old T didn't replace or exactly make up for what you missed as a child. But it did comfort. And even losing him probably reminded you so much of that void as a child, that the feelings are so much more intense. It's not just about the relationship with your T. It's about your childhood, too. Because he did fill a need in you.
Someone will love you like that again. And maybe it will be someone who loves you like that as a life partner, not as a T. You will find happiness, just as you will have times when you are triggered by something that reminds you of that childhood void. Because you can never go back and fill that void. You can only be comforted in the present. That just sucks, I know, believe me.
I don't talk to my T in the car, but I do imagine he is nearby when I am out running errands and such. That somehow is comforting to me.
You will be okay. And you are okay just as you are. And you can be better.
((((voce))))
gg
poster:gardenergirl
thread:472730
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20050315/msgs/472957.html