Posted by Dinah on March 19, 2005, at 9:15:42
In reply to It's still there (are ya'll sick of this subject?), posted by messadivoce on March 19, 2005, at 3:30:17
You've lost someone important in your life, and no one who understands that would stop you talking about him anymore than they'd stop me talking about Daddy. Grief is grief.
My own therapist didn't expect my intense attachment to him. Apparently many people just go to therapy. And although I suppose he could be seen as encouraging it now, or at least as not discouraging it, initially he certainly did nothing to encourage it.
I guess once they leave because of their own life circumstances, it's especially difficult for them to know the best thing to do. I'm not sure how well they cover this in therapy school.
I'm sorry. Grief does fade over time. Even the most intense grief. And when it does, you do lose him somewhat as a constant presence in your life. But you don't lose him completely.
My therapist helped me work through my grief for my lost dog which was over five years old when we first started meeting. I'm not sure I've forgiven him yet for that. It hurts less, but she does feel less present. But I still remember every freckle on each little paw.
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