Posted by fallsfall on August 22, 2004, at 11:27:09
In reply to Re: The real Dinah, posted by Susan47 on August 22, 2004, at 10:24:20
I think there is value in being who you really are. Because if you aren't who you are, then who-you-are is lost to the world. I think you are saying that perhaps the world wouldn't be losing much if the real you *were* lost. But, to get slightly spiritual (which I don't usually do..), I think that the real you was put on this earth for a reason and that the real you has things to contribute. So if the real you is lost, then the world loses that contribution. Sort of like endangered species? I guess that sometimes species disappear, and that is part of the evolution of the planet (i.e. dinosaurs). But sometimes they disappear because others on the planet are selfish and push them out (Time magazine has an article on how the populations of "big cats" is declining). Should we defend those species who are endangered - and maintain the diversity in the world? Or should we let "nature take its course" - and count on survival of the fittest to govern how the world evolves?
I don't know the answer to that question. I feel that fighting against the natural order of the world (i.e. fighting to protect a particular species of owl by "crippling" other species' abilities to grow to their potential) is counterproductive to the truth that our world does evolve. But I do have real sadness about the uniqueness that we extinguish by our callousness.
I guess I am worried about losing the real you. ***I*** WANT to know the real you. But I'm not sure that the real you is either Dinah-who-is-as-she-should-be OR Dinah-who-is-as-she-is. I get the feeling that they are both defenses. I know that you adamantly oppose integrating those parts of you. But I like *both* of them enough to wish that they could come to some agreement - so there would be less conflict inside you.
I guess that, for me, the benefit of you being genuine would be that the world would be blessed by your *youness*. I am compelled to save this particular uniqueness in this world - I just think that the world will be missing something if *you* is lost.
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