Posted by lucy stone on June 9, 2004, at 8:43:12
In reply to Waaaaaahhhhhhhh, posted by Dinah on June 8, 2004, at 16:00:35
I think your T has made a mistake here. From your previous posts it is obvious that you felt that he thought you would look better if you colored your hair. Whether or not he really feels that way is irrelevant, IMO. You got the message from him that it would please him if you changed your hair color. You are very dependent on him and he knows that. You changed your hair partly to please him, and he should know that, too. He has let his personal opinion on how women, and by extension, you, look leak into your sessions and that is not right. He needs to readjust his approach to patients and do a better job of keeping those opinions private. He has been seeing you for a long time, and your desire to please him cannot be news to him. It is something you have been working and and will continue to work on. By all means take a break if you think it will help you, but if you continue with him you need to talk about this. He is right, he has let his personal preferences affect your therapy in a negative way, and he needs to improve in that area. Ts are human, too, and they make mistakes, but when they do they should be called on them.
Just sign me Lucy,
The one who always calls her T on mistakes
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