Posted by pegasus on February 14, 2004, at 16:52:56
In reply to Re: You can't be the Black Hole for validation...., posted by shortelise on February 14, 2004, at 13:41:38
> can't quite get the distinction between pride in one's accomplishments, and vanity. I seem to be in constant need of having my accomplishments witnessed and praised.
Yes, exactly. I am exactly that way also. There have been times in therapy when I wanted to talk about "bad" things I've done, and the only way I could do it was if I brought in good things to show my T as well. I brought in a good comment from a prof on a paper I'd written, and a card a friend had given me saying that she appreciated me, and stuff like that. And it was so humiliating and transparent. It felt vain and needy. I just couldn't stand to only show the bad stuff. I wanted my T to approve of me.
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