Posted by Dinah on February 14, 2004, at 8:34:26
In reply to Re: Validation, posted by DaisyM on February 13, 2004, at 21:07:07
It's Tuesday for me, but as I'm feeling better it's not too scary.
I wish mine was more like yours in not needing things spelled out so clearly, like mine does. Some of what I say seems to be relatively common sense, yet it seems to come as a huge revelation to him. I dunno, maybe it's good for me to learn to verbalize that sort of stuff, but it's frustrating sometimes.
Yesterday he was getting annoyed at my asking over and over if he was angry about something. He said it felt like I thought he was lying to me. And I asked him if it had occurred to him that I was just so frightened by what I said that I needed to hear that he wasn't angry a few times to let it sink in. It hadn't occurred to him, and he wasn't angry anymore when I explained. But that wasn't a tough thing to figure out was it?
I'm glad you don't have to struggle like that with yours. :)
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