Posted by Crooked Heart on February 13, 2004, at 14:44:02
In reply to Re: Validation » Rigby, posted by Dinah on February 13, 2004, at 11:54:23
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> And somehow I think I didn't ask the questions that I really had in mind, because I don't know what they were.I might be getting this wrong, but is it like 'if I could only find the right question and get the right answer then things will be OK?' (Or if I can read the right book, get the right dx...?) But sometimes I wonder whether the words exist, and that things happen inside, and during therapy, that our language just doesn't have the words and ideas to describe. Also wonder whether the struggling itself works in a way that that we don't understand. So that there's a result from your and your therapist's frustrating efforts even if it doesn't feel like it.
> I know he wants me to take responsibility, and probably doesn't want me to need validation or caring or reassurance from him.
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> I feel so needy. And not righteously needy like an infant. But greedily needy. Like I'm trying to suck something from him.
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I used to sometimes think I was like a vampire.
It might have been Jung (not exactly my greatest idol, but he had some good ideas), who said that our problems are rarely 'solved', but we manage to grow out of them eventually.Hope this waffling on is of some use.
Take care of yourself this weekend.
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