Posted by Rigby on February 13, 2004, at 10:28:19
In reply to Re: Validation, posted by shortelise on February 13, 2004, at 1:40:47
This is *such* a good point. And also, if we were to just stand straight, as you say, and look truth in the eye not only would it vanish but, maybe the difficulty is, what would remain in its place? Are we just too used to being full of self-doubt? Is self-doubt such an integral part of our being that we'd feel not "ourselves" without it?
Sometimes I truly feel self-deprecation and self-doubt are huge parts of my personality and maybe are things that are part of a certain charm. So who would I be without it? I really admire people who are confident but cannot stand people who feel and say that, for example, they're beautiful or sexy, etc.--total turn-off. Would never want to be one of these people or be around them. But how do you begin to feel more validated about yourself but not come off like a bragger?
> Is it a bad habit?
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> Sometimes I wonder that. I wonder if my madness isn't a habit, just a nasty habit, and that if I were to choose to stand straight and look the truth in the eye, it would vanish.
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> I wonder, what's in this for me that I can't give it up, or choose not to? How do I benefit?
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> I have only questions.
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> ShortE
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