Posted by pegasus on February 12, 2004, at 23:47:25
In reply to Validation, posted by Rigby on February 12, 2004, at 21:05:26
Yeah, I feel that too. I want my T to validate everything, all the time. But sometimes he doesn't, and it feels *terrible*. And even on the days where he validates validates validates, I feel like it's not enough, or I don't believe him, or etc.
I think it's because I was so thoroughly not validated as a kid. So, I've developed this view of myself as not valid. Which leads one to crave approval from everyone, at the same time that I don't believe a word of it. Sigh. There is no winning this game.
Fallsfall, I'll be interested to hear where this goes in your therapy. This is not an issue that I've tackled head on in therapy so far. But it's right there in my life all the time, so I suppose I should explore it.
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