Posted by DaisyM on February 13, 2004, at 21:07:07
In reply to Re: Validation » Crooked Heart, posted by Dinah on February 13, 2004, at 18:08:55
>>>And that it was way more productive to say, "Well, when I was little, sometimes I did that and the reason was xxxx, but I've heard other people say they do it because yyyy. But I suppose the reason could also be zzzzz. Do any of these sound right?" And he will say yes or no and maybe tell us a bit more. I told him that sometimes I needed him to do that because I didn't have the right words...
<<<EXACTLY. My Therapist does this sometimes and other times he waits for me. I think he doesn't want to plant ideas but sometimes I have none.Today he told me that he should remember to spend sometime going over the process again so I can see that what I am feeling is totally normal, not that it isn't unique to me. He said, "I know understanding the process and what might happen is important to you. We have to feed your intellect while holding your feelings." Yes. Yes!! It took 1/2 hour of a meltdown on the phone but I finally, finally, felt like I could make it through the weekend. And he just kept talking until I could let him go. So yes, sometimes they get it totally right. But Monday still seems pretty far away.
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