Posted by pegasus on February 16, 2004, at 1:27:43
In reply to Thank you for the validation » pegasus, posted by Racer on February 15, 2004, at 20:44:36
Sounds like a complicated relationship. Aren't they all (sigh). Your mom sounds like a hoot when she wants to be. I'm glad that you described some of her good moments as well. And, it does sound like she was rather hard on you during her bad moments. And, you know, don't you, that those were her moments, not yours? It's just so hard to hear that stuff from our moms.
My mom has no idea how she has affected me. In her mind, she never had favorites, never thought of any of us as smarter or most stupid than the others, never put pressure on us or was anything other than completely supportive. And when I try to see it through her eyes, I can. But when I see it through my eyes . . . well, she was a great mom, and I always felt loved, but I know I didn't measure up to her standard. So, all my life I feel second rate.
Oh, sorry for making this about my junk. I'm glad the validation helped!
- p
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