Posted by Lindenblüte on November 1, 2006, at 16:01:02
In reply to Re: please be civil, posted by Deneb on November 1, 2006, at 14:27:56
how about this one:
I'm having problems feeling that my experiences are validated.
I feel frustrated when I think that people minimize my difficulties.
these are *really* hard to reword in a civil way. I probably am treading a very fine line here, but I will risk it. Any contribution from deputies/admin would be appreciated.
I dont' think you're the only one who feels like this though. I understood that sentiment.
Many days I struggle (not so much here on babble, but IRL) with the dilemma- do I make more of a fuss about my struggles? will that help people understand me better? I wonder why people that CARE don't seem to listen to me, or seem interested, concerned, worried about my difficulties. I wonder why people are not able to hear me when I say something that is HUGE to me, and I feel frustrated when they seem to say that my feelings and struggles are insignificant. To me, they're significant, and that's all I was trying to express. So, I feel really torn- do I exaggerate, hoping that they will listen to me? But if I exaggerate, will they think I'm crazier than I really am? For instance, if I exaggerate to my T, will T think I'm in bad enough shape to recommend me to go to the hospital (my ultimate nightmare)? So the dilemma- hold my tongue and feel like no one hears me. Feeling all alone. unimportant. OR do I exaggerate (either my behaviors or my descriptions of my thoughts or behaviors) in an effort to get noticed, heard, understood, validated.
You're not the only one who has struggled with this Deneb*. It's really uncomfortable, at least for me.
hugs,
-Li
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