Posted by susan47 on August 5, 2006, at 10:46:23
In reply to Re: .., posted by Estella on August 5, 2006, at 1:27:07
There's no point in hiding you from yourself. So now you know. So now you know how a part of what's possible for everyone, Estella, can become a controlling part of you. But I know you can set it free. I know it can happen, I know it can. But you have to completely accept your borderline self, you have to find someone who doesn't automatically categorize you into a pathology, but someone who can go, oh yes, let me show you how to turn that off little by little until it doesn't need to speak, let me show you I hear your pain, I feel your pain, you have good reason for your pain, and no you don't need to forgive or forget anything until you've said your piece, and you say it over and over until the right person hears you. Maybe the right person, has to be you. You have to find the counsellor who will reflect your deepest, most compassionate loving self onto the bpd self, the self that acts out inside and hurts you over and over and over again, making you feel unloved, unworthy of life.
Do you know, your dad sounds like someone who was in extreme pain too, and you were both victims and so was your mother in her way too. And of course you already know that, but it doesn't make it easier to heal your own pain. No. Only your love will do that, your hope for this moment.
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