Re: Guilt by Association » Temmie

Posted by fallsfall on November 11, 2003, at 10:55:14

In reply to Guilt by Association, posted by Temmie on November 7, 2003, at 18:21:40

Temmie,
I am sorry to see you in pain.
But I think that you are starting to understand what is motivating you. The parallels with your brother seem quite clear. What happened to him? Please know that "saving" Paul will not help your brother. But it could destroy you.
I understand that he gave you a spark that was intoxicating to you. But he has also given you a great deal of pain. Put them on a balance scale - the love on one side, the pain on the other. What happens?
Please set boundaries - "If you are not in treatment, then I can't talk to you" - something like that. He has to make his decisions, but you have to make your own, too.
You were appalled during your visit. Tell him that you can not be involved (even peripherally) in that kind of "life". Make a stand for yourself.
Temmie, he is not your brother.
With love,
Falls

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