Posted by octopusprime on November 5, 2003, at 0:28:39
In reply to Visit with The Crack-Head Boyfriend. Help., posted by Temmie on November 3, 2003, at 21:52:01
temmie you have said it all.
the violence, drugs, and struggle are comforting and familiar.
so is the love. and i believe you that the love is real.
and if we rip away all that is comfortable and familiar, what are we left with?
we're left with what we always dreamed we could be if we could find our voices and stand up for ourselves. you talked about what he did with him self (t'ai chi etc) - what do you want to do with yourself?
dream of your future on your own two feet. create a positive vision of an independent you, and move toward it. one tiny tiny step at a time. the meetings and the therapist will help. grieve the loss of the man you loved, and move forward for a better life for you.
there is a better life out there after leaving an addict. the pain of leaving and initial fallout is horrible. a few years later, once the fog has worn off, and you've discovered a new you, there is another life.
courage. be strong.
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