Posted by Medusa on November 6, 2003, at 0:53:14
In reply to Festus and octopusprime, thank you , posted by Temmie on November 5, 2003, at 15:55:20
> As always, I do need to look at my own issues of attachment here.
>Temmie, I think it's important that you focus *primarily* on your attachment and boundary issues.
Your boundaries, those that you have, are very fluid. On airplanes, the blurb before the flight says that one should put on one's own oxygen mask before helping others with theirs. You're putting your own oxygen mask on someone else ... which isn't holy, it isn't helping in the long run. You want to have hope, which is very inspiring, but your application of that hope is setting you up for despair. If you take a bit of pain (probably a *lot* of pain with this kind of work) now, you'll truly have an emotionally, spiritually etc much richer life as you work through the issues and afterwards as you work through the issues the old ones covered.
First, what boundaries already exist? What's something you would NOT feel comfortable with? Now, some people wouldn't have even that boundary in place - what would you say to them?
> still too vulnerable.What can you do to bolster yourself?
You're worth protecting, Temmie. You spend a lot of time using feelings of holiness and wonder to nurse your own wounds permitted by your own insufficient boundaries. It might be time for some holy rage, some righteous terror, to protect Temmie ... so that she'll become strong and whole to carry on caring later.
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