Posted by JJC on October 2, 2003, at 14:09:27
After 11 years of apparently happy marriage, my husband stopped talking to me 2 months ago - I think because of a disagreement related to money. A week ago he stopped eating, or watching TV: when he comes back from work he pretends to sleep until the next morning. When I get any response from him it is anger: he now refuses to drink the coffee I make him (I've only made him about 35000 in our relationship so far) because I made it. I am hurt, terrified, confused, angry. We were about to start expensive building operations which I would manage. When I told him today that we are scheduled to start in a week's time (after 1 year of planning our perfect place), he told me to stop it and sell the property. After running the admin/finance side of our business for 8 years and all our own finance, he says I am not capable of anything. (I know I am very capable.) He won't tell me what has caused this. Until 2 months ago I honestly believed we were happy and in love. I think he is depressed (he says I don't know what I'm talking about), and I don't know what to do next. I am seeing a therapist next week to help me cope, but I don't know if I can hold out until then. I love him and I want this marriage to work. What do I do? Please help me. I am desperately afraid and very hurt.
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thread:264954
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