Posted by JJC on October 2, 2003, at 15:50:28
In reply to Re: Please help me understand my husband » JJC, posted by justyourlaugh on October 2, 2003, at 15:24:20
> jj,,
> i understand how hurt you must feel:(
> i dont want to upset you more but it sounds like he is very depressed,,it can last a long time,,even years..
> help yourself understand him.
> be his "rock" for awhile , even if he rather not have you.
> concentrate on what you can do from yourside of the relationship,,you cant change him..only he can..however you can get the materials needed to educate him on how to start "thinking differently"
> i cant believe he doesnt love you ..
> be strong jj.
> take care of you..
> jThank you for responding. I have been so desperate
for someone to talk to that I have checked my
mail every 30 seconds since I posted my first
note. At the moment I am crying so much that I am
struggling to type. I am so scared. Once, in 2000,
he also went "quiet" for about 6 weeks, but it
was not as bad as this. He has even changed
passwords so that I can't get access his computer
(after 8 years of sharing information that is
truly scary.)Last night I found a reference to a good book
(Depression Fallout: The Impact of Depression on
Couples) and ordered it, but it won't be in the
country (South Africa) for another 3 weeks. I want
to talk to my mother - she is a wonderful woman
of 71- but this will be so painful for her. Right
now I feel so alone and so, so scared.How do I help him see what is going on? How can a
man who is so intelligent and who I really believe
loved me so much, do this?
poster:JJC
thread:264954
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