Posted by femlite on October 5, 2003, at 0:07:00
In reply to Please help me understand my husband, posted by JJC on October 2, 2003, at 14:09:27
JJC,
Youve been very brave and made the first important step of many.
I have been depressed all my married life. So this is advice from from the other side of the breakfast table, dont take it personally.
I know this may sound selfish when your the spouse whose feeling rejected, but my husband feeling rejected makes me feel further from him. Ill try to explain. I guess the fact that he feels that way makes me feel like he really doesnt get it, or understand. (and if youve never been depressed how could you, right?)
Knowing he cant understand makes the gap between us feel like a chasm.
There's been lots of good advise here. Help yourself first.
And remember, it isnt you. The more you can feel that the more space he may feel to open up.
my best to you
poster:femlite
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