Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on July 31, 2007, at 13:29:11
In reply to Yesterday had some very ugly bits TRIGGER, posted by clearskies on July 31, 2007, at 8:26:26
Hi clearSkies,
you write> I want to remind people here that domestic violence takes many forms; that physical force is just one way of harming a partner. Emotional and verbal abuse is just as traumatic as a bruise, slap or broken bone is. I realized, at 2AM when I still couldn't sleep, that my SD's young man triggered some still very painful memories in me of a traumatic 18 year marriage that I survived. I know that my outburst towards him was rooted in the anger and burning hatred that I still harbour deep within me, and that it actually blinded me, almost physically, to where I could see my ex spouse's face superimposed on his. It stunned me to know that I still had this fight left in me, and that I was protecting myself as much as trying to protect my SD when I told him that I had him all figured out.
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> It all makes too much sense.
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> cs
That sense of FIGHT is why he's your Ex-husband. I only wish it were possible to divorce one's parents.ll
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