Posted by ClearSkies on July 26, 2007, at 14:52:36
Regarding my step daughter. She has cut herself off as best she can from her family. No phone - she rung up a $300 bill and defaulted on it. Defaulted on her rent, we found out when her landlord called us looking for her, 'cause her phone wasn't working. We guess she's moved in with her new love? Then her place of work called us Monday looking for her because she didn't show up and hadn't called in, and she usually gets herself to a payphone at least to say she's got Monday disease. So all these fingers are pointing to us to find her and have answers for where she is, but we have nowhere even to look. Don't even know her BF's last name, and we gather that he's been living at a jobsite where part of the house is finished and the owner/builder let him move in for the duration of the job. I do know that he doesn't have a car.
So, I persuaded my husband to call a counselor specializing in interventions. I got all the information before all the contacts with his daughter got reset to zero. But husband finally called, because the rest of his family - his ex-wife, the other daughter, and the son, are all so very worried and angry and at their collective wits' ends.
DH had a couple of telephone consultations with the counselor, who was out of town at the time. Tonight he has an appointment with her, and he seems angry - with ME, somehow. For getting him "into" this. See, I really, really think my spouse could benefit from some therapy of his own. But if this appointment turns out to be a planning session as to what to do when/if the daughter ever reappears, then that's fine with me - at least there will be a plan in place.
But I wasn't expecting him to be mad with me. Like I set him up or something.
Oh, I don't know. I just thought he needed to be able to talk to someone, you know, in the professional field, about what to do with a grown up child with substance abuse problems, and, increasingly, legal problems, and issues about facing up to the responsibilities of life.
I feel defensive about this and I don't know why.
That's all.ClearSkies
poster:ClearSkies
thread:772136
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/relate/20070210/msgs/772136.html