Posted by gardenergirl on July 30, 2007, at 8:38:26
In reply to I think I've ruined any chances, posted by ClearSkies on July 30, 2007, at 8:01:35
Well that sounds like a truly awful time. I'm sorry.
I think that speaking up was not a bad thing. I definitely go for it versus playing along and acting against what your head and heart are telling you. And as the step-mom, you actually get a bit more lee-way to do that, imo. Of course, that makes you the bad guy, too, when others find it painful to hear. :(My guess is that DH's focus is on his fear of losing her for good. In that fear, you might be an easy target to shift blame on or for his emotions.
And maybe that fear makes it hard for him to see how your statements might actually do some good someday for his daughter. Maybe not today. Maybe not with this man. But someday, maybe. What sucks is that you may never know of it, either. But I think your speaking up was a generous gift of your wisdom, your love, and your self. I'm sorry for the backlash.
(((((cs))))))
gg
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