Posted by clearskies on July 31, 2007, at 8:26:26
In reply to I think I've ruined any chances, posted by ClearSkies on July 30, 2007, at 8:01:35
Including a voicemail from the guy calling me that worst name in the book, the C word! First time that's ever happened, at least to my knowledge. He was very drunk and very angry.
But, the sun broke through long enough that SD is going to see a counselor today with her father. Willingly. I'm bowing out, gratefully, and who knows what if anything will come of the discussion, but no coercion was necessary. It was an exhausting and bruising (emotionally) day.
I want to remind people here that domestic violence takes many forms; that physical force is just one way of harming a partner. Emotional and verbal abuse is just as traumatic as a bruise, slap or broken bone is. I realized, at 2AM when I still couldn't sleep, that my SD's young man triggered some still very painful memories in me of a traumatic 18 year marriage that I survived. I know that my outburst towards him was rooted in the anger and burning hatred that I still harbour deep within me, and that it actually blinded me, almost physically, to where I could see my ex spouse's face superimposed on his. It stunned me to know that I still had this fight left in me, and that I was protecting myself as much as trying to protect my SD when I told him that I had him all figured out.
It all makes too much sense.
cs
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