Posted by llurpsienoodle on May 24, 2007, at 8:04:13
In reply to The stepdaughter story, contd, posted by scratchpad on May 23, 2007, at 15:54:43
:(
I had a friend like that in college. My best friend, actually. One drama after another.
We did end up having an intervention for her after her drug use escalated to cocaine and she was spending too much quality time with her dealers. After she was basically flunking all her classes in search of the next thing she could assault her poor nervous system with.
3 friends who loved her. an ex narc addict (narc anon campus sponsor counsellor person) and someone else in the eaves if things got too ugly.
we had to tell her how much we loved her. how specific incidents of her use had left us hurt. how her behavior scared us.
She broke down, and though she didn't change her ways immediately, she was able to squeak through the semester. She promptly changed scenery, left college and found herself in a situation where she couldn't find a pill or a smoke or worse just around the corner.
She's doing okay now. She ought to be in therapy, but at least she's not using.
I don't know what to tell you other than- it hurts. you have to take care of yourself so that you'll be strong enough to help her pick up the pieces. But you can't pick them up for her. She has to decide to do that herself.
If it's any consolation, I can't really imagine you in the "evil stepmother" role. That kind of cracks me up actually ;)
take care, you
-Ll
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