Posted by scratchpad on April 17, 2007, at 14:54:24
In reply to Re: Stalemate » scratchpad, posted by zenhussy on April 17, 2007, at 11:39:03
> the situation sounds sad yet protecting yourself is what you must attend to first....you've learned so much about the importance of self care over the past few years. you've done much to build up those supports and maintain them and this is a testing of the mettel of your boundaries.
>It feels awfully selfish in a bad way.
> it probably doesn't feel like a victory to know that you're able to step back and put your needs first but it is one.
>Eh? Have you been talking to my T??!
> surround yourself with allies who believe in your right to not be involved in this fray between father and daughter. you have the right to keep your sanity separate from the insanity created within families.
>I think what is so upsetting is the real-time deja-vue, deja-ecoute... except when I was spiraling downwards I had only like-minded people around me, whereas my step daughter's entire immediate family is expressing alarm and grave concern for her health and wellbeing. I know that I feel a bizarre touch of jealousy that she has so many people showing such concern. (Sour grapes for Scratchpad.)
> you feel how you feel. allow yourself that regardless of their issues. tc and stay strong.thank you, Zen.
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