Posted by BiPolarLen on April 4, 2007, at 14:33:07
In reply to Re: when is it abuse?, posted by Happyflower on March 24, 2007, at 14:15:07
In my opinion when you have to go behind someones back to seek. That itself is abuse period, now there is all kinds of emotonal abuse. Believe I know firsthand, for I was and still will until I learn how to deal my anger. However, the cost of finding this all out was expensive(emotional)
> > > yes, it is called emotional abuse and blackmail.
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> > i have no bruises.
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> Maybe not physical bruises, but emotional one maybe.
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> > i always say the wrong things.
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> according to who?
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> > he says i provoke him
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> abusers ALWAYS blame someone else.
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> > i do whatever it takes to stop it from happening
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> Maybe the only thing you can do is leave, ususally this kind of behavior gets much worse, and turns physical.
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> > i have sold my soul and given my body to make it stop
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> Doing this should clue in that what he is doing is wrong.
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> > i give in to keep my family from knowing
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> Hiding this is allowing yourself to be issolated (which is what a lot of abusers want)
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> > if i could just be better, if i could be easier to live with maybe he would love me like i love him
> >
> Love shouldn't be this hard. To an abuser, you will never be good enough to them, and this is something that they will enforce into your head, so they can get away with the abuse.
> Emotional abuse hurts and causes as many problems and scars as physical abuse. Abuse is abuse. If you have to hide from others what is happening to you, than it is probably abuse. I am sorry you are going through this. Please take care of yourself, sometimes this is the most important thing.
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