Posted by shangrila7 on July 7, 2008, at 21:01:48
In reply to Re: when is it abuse?, posted by tunguska on April 12, 2008, at 4:31:14
Thank you all so much for your help and concern. I think when we are stuck in the middle of everything it is so hard to figure out what is what, especially when there is someone who pretty much always places the blame back on you.
I am still with my husband but things have improved a bit. I have tried to tell him what is going on and I think our daughter actually helped too because he realized she was listening and realizing what was happening, she was afraid to go with him or would spill something and tell me she was sorry she would clean it up so daddy wouldn't get mad. While I hate to hear those things come out of her mouth he has started to pay more attention to what he says. We are going to start counseling soon too so hopefully that will help. I am going to go at least and he says he will. I am trying to take this one step at a time. I know I don't want my daughter thinking this is normal, i grew up seeing it & so did her dad and we always wanted better for her. I guess its a hard cycle to break, but she is worth it. I will let you know if things change or how they transpire, hopefully they will continue to improve. Thank you again for all your help, I thought I was going crazy. I am trying to get myself in order so that should it happen again, I will be ready & can leave. We are working on it for now.
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