Posted by Happyflower on March 24, 2007, at 14:15:07
In reply to Re: when is it abuse? » Happyflower, posted by gazo on March 23, 2007, at 21:05:52
> > yes, it is called emotional abuse and blackmail.
>
> i have no bruises.Maybe not physical bruises, but emotional one maybe.
> i always say the wrong things.
according to who?
> he says i provoke him
abusers ALWAYS blame someone else.
> i do whatever it takes to stop it from happening
Maybe the only thing you can do is leave, ususally this kind of behavior gets much worse, and turns physical.
> i have sold my soul and given my body to make it stop
Doing this should clue in that what he is doing is wrong.
> i give in to keep my family from knowing
Hiding this is allowing yourself to be issolated (which is what a lot of abusers want)
> if i could just be better, if i could be easier to live with maybe he would love me like i love him
>
Love shouldn't be this hard. To an abuser, you will never be good enough to them, and this is something that they will enforce into your head, so they can get away with the abuse.
Emotional abuse hurts and causes as many problems and scars as physical abuse. Abuse is abuse. If you have to hide from others what is happening to you, than it is probably abuse. I am sorry you are going through this. Please take care of yourself, sometimes this is the most important thing.
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