Posted by wyatthaslakefever on December 29, 2005, at 23:55:20
In reply to Re: Missing her so much...Tamar/DeclanTamar, posted by Declan on December 29, 2005, at 20:27:24
> You should go for it, kiddo. I mean it sounds pretty good. You've told her you love her and are therefore screwed up and miserable. If your tone was a tad angry you can always tell her again differently.
>Don't worry about it lasting forever or anything. Who knows?>
Problem is, breakups--h-e-double hockeysticks, not even breakups, even unrequited love/like--leave her incapacitated. For a long time. She gets very very depressed and gloomy for long periods of time. This worries me and I don't want to be the cause of it.
>The thing is 'can it be nice and good?', and from what you say it sounds like it can. And that's really precious.>
But I get so nervous... Like i'm out of control and don't know what i'm doing... Like I'm trying to fill shoes I can't fill... I mean we care deeply for each other but know we can't be the right person for each other. Or something. And there's no convincing her now... I mean we've been through this before but somehow I think the resolution to remain friends will stick this time. To be crude about it, she got what she wanted...
> You're only 21, hey? What's life without love? I wouldn't be thinking about a permanent partner. >
I think that's kind of what she's looking for, what she needs. A long-term, perminant-type partner. I don't think friends with benifits was really working for her.
Sigh. C'est la vie.
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