Posted by Tamar on December 28, 2005, at 16:42:55
In reply to Missing her so much..., posted by wyatthaslakefever on December 27, 2005, at 23:08:29
> Ugh.
> I know, I know it was best for us to just be friends but...
> But I miss her so much it hurts.I’m sorry you’re hurting.
> I know she misses me too.
> It's for the best, I know, but there are times it hurts to look at her. I feel like I've lost so much.Well, she’s bound to be special to you. And it sounds as if it was more her decision than yours. Can you talk to her about it?
One thing I wondered… was it a relationship that was inappropriate in some way? I can see why she’d insist on ending it if she’s your teacher or something like that, but I’m not sure why she won’t simply let it run its course if the main issue is the age difference. But maybe there are factors I don’t know about…
My perspective on age difference comes from my own experience: I had a wonderful relationship when I was in my early twenties with someone who was in his fifties. It was brief (he moved overseas with his job after a few months), but it was very special. It can work; it’s hard to make it work long term, but it can be very rewarding if you don’t have too many expectations.
> Drives me nuts.
>
> I hate to think about it, try to block it out with television and music and anything to get my mind off of how bad I feel but sometimes I just CAN'T, and when I run out of cop shows to waste my time with and I'm sitting in silence I feel like I'm going to explode...I think writing letters is a good idea. You don’t have to post them. But I find writing stuff down helps me to get it off my chest.
> And I don't want to talk to my friends about this because they will badmouth her and I don't want that. As much as I'm hurt and mad at her (unjustly, but still) I love her and don't want to speak ill of her. So I guess I'm just venting on here, hope that's okay. Just blasting this into cyberspace.
Vent here all you want. But if you can think of a friend who might be prepared to listen without making a big fuss about it, that would probably help too.
> Sigh. Tommorrow is another day and all that.Yes. Take it one day at a time. I hope you feel better soon.
Tamar
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