Posted by alexandra_k on November 25, 2005, at 19:07:49
In reply to no girlfriend so I turned to prostition, posted by MichaelJr on November 16, 2005, at 12:42:52
Hey there. Sorry for my part in 'hijacking' the thread...
I want to say... That I don't judge you... Really.
Sounds like... It is becoming a bit of a problem in your life. The expense etc. And that a huge part of the problem is to do with your self-confidence. Not feeling able to talk to girls. To ask them out etc. And so... Prostitutes become a realtively safe way of getting what you need without taking the risk that someone will say they don't want to go out with you or something.
I would say... That therapy is likely to be your best bet. To talk to someone about the problem. Because... Sexual activity can become 'addctive' in much the way that drug taking and gambelling etc can be 'addictive'. You know you are spending more than you can afford... But there is a compulsion to keep doing it. And why is there that compulsion? Thats where you could chat to someone about what you are getting from these prostitutes that you aren't getting in your life.
And you said about your self-esteem and confidence etc. And so... Working with someone on that would probably help you. And could help you gain the confidence to meet more people (including women) and ask them out etc.
Congradulations on graduating :-)
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