Posted by TexasChic on November 21, 2005, at 16:44:58
In reply to Re: no girlfriend so I turned to prostition » TexasChic, posted by alexandra_k on November 21, 2005, at 3:53:34
Whoa. Now you've got me thinking all deep and everything! I agree that casual sex and sex when in love are two very different things (at least I'm hoping so!). But if someone's okay with being objectified, so be it.
Its interesting the points you make on training ourselves to be aroused by a certain object. I've always felt that all sexual feelings are taught (I know that's not what you were saying). I believe that people are basically born bisexual and every aspect of their lives figures in to what they end up finding arousing. I think if our society wasn't so gender fixated, things would be alot different. But that's just my theory.
>He seemed to think that love meant that both allow themself to be an object for the other but that this was acceptable because they were gaining that part of the other person. So basically... If the relationship is reciprocal then things are okay, and sex is morally acceptable.
I think this is a good point, although I might substitute 'psychologically healthy' for 'morally acceptable'.
>We seem to get up in arms about men treating women as objects - but what seems to be happening (IMO) is that women are attempting to gain 'equality' by turning the tables and returning the favour. I'm not sure that that solves the problem...
That is definitely true. I know I'm guilty of that myself. Its an easy thing to fall into, and I don't know yet how I feel about it. Its never even occured to me that it isn't the the best way to go, so you've given me something to think about. This reminds me of something I ironically heard on the radio today. Heidi Fleiss is talking about opening a brothel with male prostitues servicing straight women. H-m-m, I have to admit, getting a taste of the sort of freedom that men have had for years (centuries?) is appealing.
-T
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